Mālama Ola Minute: Helping keiki navigate emotions on a difficult anniversary

Aug. 1, 2024

As the remembrance of the Maui wildfires approaches, it can be a time of reflection for many. This period can bring back memories and emotions that may be difficult for your ʻohana to process. Here are three thoughtful ways to support your child’s well-being in the aftermath of tragedy:

  • Acknowledge emotions
    Recognizing the range of emotions your child might be experiencing will help them feel less alone. It's okay to let them acknowledge the anniversary on their own, validating their feelings as normal reactions and part of the healing process. Be ready to have open conversations and offer age-appropriate explanations that provide reassurance.
     
  • Create a supportive environment
    The anniversary of a traumatic event can stir up stress and anxiety. Establishing a predictable routine like regular family mealtimes and consistent bedtimes can create a secure environment while limiting news exposure and emotional contagions can lessen worries. Physical closeness may also help children to feel comforted. Consider professional help post-crisis by consulting with pediatricians, church communities or behavioral support organizations.
     
  • Encourage positive remembrance
    Commemorating an event can be deeply therapeutic. Creating art, writing letters, being in nature and spending time in the community can help strengthen ties and renew shared values on an anniversary. These activities can offer emotional support and foster a sense of collective healing.


Parents and caregivers are vital in guiding our keiki through tough times by approaching the observance of a tragedy with empathy and care. Remember that healing is a journey and your support is crucial in fostering their emotional well-being.