KS is committed to providing a learning environment free from all types of discrimination, harassment, intimidation, bullying, hazing or violence that may interfere with a student’s ability to learn and enjoy his or her educational experience. If you are a student who has been bullied, a parent of a bullied child, or witness to a bullying incident, please tell a kumu, an administrator, or report it via the KS Hiʻikua Student Helpline.
What is bullying?
Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school-aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated over time. Bullying can cause many different kinds of harm or distress, including: physical (hitting, tripping), verbal (name-calling, teasing), or relational/social (spreading rumors, leaving a child out of a group).
Bullying can happen at school or in other settings. It can also take place in the digital world. Cyberbullying includes sending, posting or sharing negative content about someone via text, email or social media apps including Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat.
A 2017 Hawai‘i survey revealed that 40% of middle school and 15% of high school students reported being bullied at school, and that 23% of middle schoolers and 18% of high schoolers reported being cyberbullied.
Warning signs that a a child is being bullied
Bullying increases the risk for depression, anxiety, school avoidance and poor academic achievement in keiki. Not all children who are bullied show warning signs, but some signs that point to a bullying problem are:
Why don't kids ask for help?
Despite the startling statistics on bullying, StopBullying.gov reports that only about 20 to 30 percent of children who are bullied tell an adult. Here are some reasons why:
How adults can help
Listen. It is the child’s story. Let him or her tell it. They may be in emotional pain about the way they are being treated.
Believe. The knowledge that a child is being bullied can raise many emotions. To be an effective advocate, adults need to react in a way that encourages the child to trust.
Be supportive. Tell the child it is not his fault and that he does not deserve to be bullied. Empower the keiki by telling her how terrific she is. Avoid judgmental comments about the child or bully.
Be patient. A child may not be ready to open up right away. Talking about the bullying can be difficult because the he or she may be feeling frightened or ashamed.
Provide information. Teach your child about bullying by providing information at a level that your keiki can understand.
How to talk to your children about bullying
Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
Bullying prevention resources for families and educators
National Association of School Psychologists
Tips on mobile and online safety
PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center
What kids can do about bullying
8 things kids can do if they see bullying
Very Well Health